A relationship with a Narcissist always follows three phases, the over-evaluations phase, the devaluation phase and the discard phase.
The Over-evaluation Phase A Narcissist is very careful when choosing a target.
Suddenly the attention they so lavishly gave you is gone and replace by indifference and silence.
I don’t feel like I belong anywhere or with anyone.” Narcissists are completely self-absorbed and are oblivious to the wants and needs of others.
They enter into relationships in an attempt to fill this void and to make sure that they have someone who is always available for sex, an ego stroke or whatever need they may have.
A relationship with a Narcissist has been compared to being on a roller coaster, with immense highs and immense lows.
They have been described as the proverbial Jekyll and Hyde, one way one minute, another the next.
Their pursuer is exactly what they want in a partner (because the Narcissist is mirroring what they have learned appeals to their target) and they can’t believe how lucky they are and that this catch is still single.
What they don’t know, or could ever be prepared for, is what comes next.
The greater the status, the higher the value the Narcissist places on the Supply derived.
Once a target has been chosen, it’s almost like the Narcissist gets tunnel vision.
They are hyper-vigilant in their pursuit and will project the perfect image that their victim wants them to be.
They are excessively caring, loving and attentive at this stage.
They become moody and agitated easily, blaming you for even the slightest transgression.